Where We Do What We Do

Hi there, guys and dolls! Today, my real life alter egos Andrea and Heather are taking over the blog again, writing about well, writing. What they write and where they write it, to be specific. Not only in the matter of place, but also the atmosphere and feeling the surroundings give.

On the weekend, they conducted a very successful Creative Writing Workshop, generously hosted by the Mission Branch of the Okanagan Regional Library System. They met some wonderful fellow authors, some who write fiction too, but also people who write memoirs, poetry, nature blogs, and various non-fiction projects, of all walks of life and age at various stages of accomplishments. It was fascinating to connect and share their experiences, giving thoughts on what works and doesn’t work for them.

The biggest thing? Write, just write. Give reverence to your projects, to the ideas buzzing in your head. Set aside time, take it seriously, even if you are only at the beginning, as it is a very good place to start.


A long time favorite restaurant, Theo’s in Penticton. Many a delicious meal has been devoured there, and in the quiet afternoon, my girls have plotted away a red herring or two.

The girls also talked about different processes in writing projects, from germinating to saving the final draft. Through their experiences, they’ve found some places and ways that naturally keep them in the groove and literally on the page as they go along.


One of the many beaches along the Okanagan Lake that can be so inspiring anytime of the year.

It seems that when they are at the beginning of a book, namely their Poppy Cove Mystery Series at this point (other works will be forthcoming, give them time!), being somewhere lively and busy is very helpful. A mid-afternoon spent in a beautiful restaurant, bustling cafe, or pub lingering over a glass of wine or cup of coffee while the world goes by does wonders for how they plot and scheme the complicated lives of their Santa Lucians. A beautiful view down by the lake on a delightful beach in the shade, listening to waves and laughter of others is helpful as well.


Frank Sinatra and his pal, Dean Martin. How can one not be inspired to write dreamy scenes when they are crooning in the background?

For the actual writing, however, having a dedicated writing room is ideal. Being able to come and go from it between writing sessions is terrific, along with the solace of a room of one’s own lends itself to filling in the color of the plots and story. Background music is always playing, usually Frank Sinatra or jazz such as Charlie Parker, Nina Simone, Blossom Dearie, Chet Baker and the like from the mid-century era does wonders for their creativity. During editing, classical such as Mozart, Beethoven, and Bach are very helpful with their rhythmic foundations.

Please feel free to share your thoughts on what inspires you to do what you do and where you do it.

Warm Regards,

Andrea & Heather

aka that Barbara Jean

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Marlo Takes 5 with Barbara Jean

Hi there, guys and dolls! Well, as September draws to a close and the autumn leaves begin to fall, I get to cozy up to do one of my favorite things, a Take 5 interview with one of my fellow Cozy Cat Press authors. Marlo Hollinger is a girl after my own heart, what with That Girl being such a fine, fine influence. Settle on in and get to know the author of CATERED TO DEATH, A Mid-Lives Crisis Mystery.

1. So tell me a little about your series and main characters.CateredtoDeath_ebook_Final

My series is called “Mid-lives Crisis” series and is about, surprisingly, a middle-aged couple, Steve and Dee Dee Pearson, who are still nuts about each other. Dee Dee has a case of the guilts because they are getting closer to retirement and she hasn’t really contributed all that much to the family funds. Since her kids are grown and she now has the time to work full-time, Dee Dee decides to find a job that will pay her well, give her something interesting to do and, most of all, give her the ability to kick in to the family retirement account. Unfortunately, Dee Dee immediately displays a talent for finding workplaces where murder is afoot.

2. What is your writing process like? Do you thrive on routine or work spontaneously as the whim takes you?

I would love routine but unfortunately my life doesn’t really allow for too much of it. I work in a school so during the school year I don’t have the time/energy to write as much as I’d like to. I try to write every day but fail at that almost every other day. Summer is better and that’s when I can really get a regular schedule going and stick with it.

3. What exciting moment or moments have made you realize that you were really an “author”?

Hmmm. I seem to have a bit of a Sybil-like existence when it comes to being an author. I’ve been writing for 25 years and have had seven books published but when I’m not in writing mode, it’s almost like everything writing/career related is happening to someone else. I love writing and I really love reading a positive review, but it’s like a cousin or a friend is getting the review and once I read it I tend to forget about it until I read it again. I’m not at all sure if that’s normal or not. Probably not.

4. What do you do to spark up your creativity when you feel the well of inspiration is running dry?

Sleep is very good as is very strong coffee when you get up. When I’m not feeling inspired I tend to take some time off until an idea pops into my head. A bigger problem for me is remembering those ideas and then actually acting on them. I dream of retirement or writing a bestseller (preferably the latter) and being able to write every single day without having to squeeze it in.

5. Who are some of your favorite authors and how do you feel they have influenced your desire to write?

I love Anne Emery, Betty MacDonald, Shirley Jackson, Mary Stewart, Irwin Shaw and I take a really guilty pleasure in reading Jacqueline Susann. Anne Emery wrote “teenage” books in the 1950s and 1960s and I grew up reading her and wanting to be as smart and have as much character as her heroines. Betty MacDonald is simply the funniest writer ever. Irwin Shaw had the ability to make his readers feel like they were in one of his books. All of the authors I love were able to take the reader by the hand and draw them into the world they’d created. I would love to be able to do that.

And I do believe you do, Marlo! Friends, be sure to give CATERED TO DEATH a read on your Kindle. I’m sure you’ll enjoy her story and people as much as I did. Till next week, kittens.


Barbara Jean

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So Who Does Make it A NATE TO REMEMBER, Part Two

Hi there, guys and dolls! A couple of weeks ago, I shared with you a little tidbit about some of the fine Santa Lucians featured in my most recently published Poppy Cove Mystery, A A_Nate_To_RememberNATE TO REMEMBER. Here are some more fine folks that make the color in my world.

Sophie – the new “French Art Tart” (well, actually the Art Teacher up at Stearns Academy). She has that certain way about her. The wiggle in the walk, the touchy-feely and the accented turn of phrase that keeps all the men running, or so she thinks.

Adonis – Another recent resident, also on the kooky art scene. He likes to think of himself as a Greek God, although the challenges of middle age are taking their toll on this lothario, what with balding and gray hair in a pony tail. He’s a little bohemian and beat, wearing those leather sandals and smoking those funny cigarettes. He thinks Daphne is in fine form, however.

Daphne Huntington-Smythe – one of our beloved Poppy Cove shop owners. The fair haired, carefree Daphne truly feels challenged in her life. Everything has always been so easy and breezy for Santa Lucia’s golden girl, and maybe that’s just the problem. She’s never questioned her choices and when she learns that most of the people around her have lived a more daring and compromising life than her, she feels the itch to do something she might regret, or at least be able to have a secret to privately smile about.

Daniel Henshaw – Daphne’s beau and the Riding Instructor at Stearns Academy. Good old steady Daniel, happy and content in his busy life is at a loss at how to handle Daphne’s urge to rebel. Blissfully unaware of the powers that be in the shape of Sophie, he’s keenly aware of the attentions of Adonis to his girl, knowing that the guy’s intentions are not just for art studies. Daniel does his best to help Daphne feel more like everyone else around her, he plans for their own “day to remember,” which could be more than they both bargained for.

Marjorie Cummings – Head Seamstress at Poppy Cove and the rock the girls rely on. She’s got her own past to tell, and doesn’t hesitate to share it with Margot, just when she needed to hear it the most.

Well, there you have it, friends. Pick up your copy of A NATE TO REMEMBER today (or any of the earlier Poppy Cove Mysteries – STRANGLED BY SILK, DEATH OF A BEAUTY QUEEN) to fill in the blanks today!


Barbara Jean

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What Makes a Good Book?

Hi there, guys and dolls! Hope you are having a lovely September. As the seasons change, if you are a reader (which I’m guessing if you reading this, you are…think about it, it’s not that hard), then one thing remains the same – the love of a good book. 11870869_1686002078286509_313793752052374959_n

Us book lovers just keep right on reading throughout the year. The seasons may reflect our choices, perhaps our thoughts turn to love and light reads during the milder and warmer months, and then our interests may shift to heavier tomes and/or the classics during the crisp and chilly autumn and winter, but the reason for reading may remain the same. To transport ourselves to places and on adventures we can take from a comfortable chair at anywhere and anytime we choose. We may also select books where the hero or heroine may have slices of life that reflect our own, which helps us think about how we handle or view our own personal journeys.

Deeming a novel a good book is so subjective, and it should be. It’s a very personal and intimate thing, which is sometimes reflected in reviews and stars, but not always. A good book should be what you get out of it, the thoughts and emotions that are provoked within you. Do you long to be in the world that the author has created? Do you weep with joy or sorrow as the story unfolds? Does time slip away as you turn the page? Do you want to rush to finish, yet at the same time savor every word? Do you simply find yourself caring about the people and places you visit in your mind’s eye? A good book will do that for you.

I love to read (as do my writing alter egos Andrea and Heather). I also do my best to put those qualities into what I write. Time creating my town and my people is like another realm, yet feels so real that when something exciting (good or bad) happens, I sometimes catch myself thinking, ‘Oh, I can’t wait to tell Margot and Daphne about it!’ then chuckle, realizing they’re imaginary. The good thing is, being that they are, in a funny way, they are always there, just waiting in my mind’s eye to hear from me.


Barbara Jean

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So Who Does Make it A NATE TO REMEMBER?

Hi there, guys and dolls! Hope you’re having a lovely long weekend. As always, I’m scheming and dreaming trials and tribulations for my Santa Lucia social set. And for all of A_Nate_To_Rememberyou who haven’t come along for the third Poppy Cove Mysteries ride (A NATE TO REMEMBER), here’s a smattering of some of the people who are featured in this salacious tale, both new and familiar to my dear readers.

Nathan Reed – Otherwise known as “Nate,” the one that you will remember. Swarthy and handsome, this poor devil shows up dead, with an arm length of people who have reason to want to see him as such. He’s shot clean through the heart, so is it just a good aim or a crime of passion?

Margot Williams – Shock and horror, one of our beloved, main heroines turns out to be a major suspect and possible murderess. Turns out “Margot” may not be who she claims to be. We get to find out how and why she came to Santa Lucia to stay, but will she be able to remain?

Tom Malone – Margot’s devoted and faithful boyfriend, who also happens to be Santa Lucia Police Department’s lead detective. Not only do the revelations about the object of his affection leave him stunned, he’s also been pulled not only from the case, but also his job, as he is intimately involved and a suspect, as well.

Jeannette Fox – A new resident to Santa Lucia and sewer at Poppy Cove, she mysteriously disappears around the time of Nate’s murder. Now why exactly would that be?

Mildred Coleman – Widow owner and operator of Mrs. Coleman’s Boarding House, a beautiful old craftsman house where some of our characters in this story have been staying. As a tidbit of information, Loretta Simpson, Santa Lucia Times Society Editor had stayed there when she first moved to town but it didn’t work out all that well. Mrs. Coleman is convinced she runs a tidy and clean ship with strict rules, but is it really as wholesome as she thinks it is?

Well, there you have it, folks. I’ll write another report on the A NATE TO REMEMBER “in crowd.” In the meantime, why not pick up a Kindle copy for yourself and find out more on your own?


Barbara Jean

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Lane Buckman Takes 5 with Barbara Jean

Hi there, guys and dolls! Well, can you believe another month has gone by? Here we are, nearing the end of summer, but it’s not so bad. As the days get shorter and nights a little cooler, sunset cocktails and beach fires give way to hot toddies and roaring fi51ERzdZKb0L._SX332_BO1,204,203,200_replaces to snuggle by. Now doesn’t that make you feel better already?

Now of course, being that it is the end of the month, it’s time for my favorite type of post – Take 5. Today I have a great, fun-loving glamour gal, Lane Buckman. This delightful and busy lady has a few things on the go, but today we’ll focus on TIARA TROUBLE, the first novel in her Destinee Faith Miller Mystery series. So everyone, sit back and have some fun getting to know my friend, Lane.

1. So tell me a little about your series and main characters.
Destinee Faith Miller is the main character of my series (though the next two books are currently sitting on my computer because I haven’t pulled the trigger on them, yet.) She’s a collective of all the women I’ve loved in my life, a little silly, a lot sassy, and very smart in her way. She doesn’t run from a fight, unless it’s to make sure she’s wearing the right shoes for it.

2. What is your writing process like? Do you thrive on routine or work spontaneously as the whim takes you?
When I’m working on a project, I work until it is done. I do work to an outline, but I work in every free moment I have. My last manuscript saw me up at five, to take advantage of the hour before my son went to school. Then, I have a bluetooth keyboard, and I would use my work lunch hour to compose in Google docs on my phone. After work, feeding the family, and putting the boy to bed, I would write for another couple of hours.

3. What exciting moment or moments have made you realize that you were really an “author”?
Three published books later, and two picture books published through my own imprint (Robyn Lane Books,) and I still have a terrible case of Imposter Syndrome. I don’t know that I’ll ever feel like a “real” author. That said, realizing I have answers to questions, and help to offer writers who are working toward publication reminds me that I’ve accomplished something. I have loved every book signing, and am always delighted when someone enjoys my work.

4. What do you do to spark up your creativity when you feel the well of inspiration is running dry?
I don’t ever feel like the well of inspiration is running dry. I have the opposite problem. I have too many ideas to get them all down on paper. I do hit roadblocks when I’m writing, though. When that happens, I think ahead to a scene that I find exciting, and I write that. If I can keep going forward, I do, if not, I go back to the place where I was stuck, and I write toward that exciting scene to fill in the gaps. I have a hard time writing in a straight line!

5. Who are some of your favorite authors and how do you feel they have influenced your desire to write?
Pamela Dean (you must read her book TAM LIN,) Madeleine L’Engle, C.S. Lewis, J.K. Rowling, and Judy Blume are the authors who have most consistently fed my love for reading. When I’m writing, I frequently find myself thinking back to one of their books trying to dissect how they did something that stuck with me. I also love Tom Robbins (SKINNY LEGS AND ALL), Rainbow Rowell (ELEANOR AND PARK), and Bill Fitzhugh (PEST CONTROL.)

Every one of those authors has the gift of transporting me to a very specific place, and time. I feel like I’m living their stories along with the characters. I honestly don’t think I am even approaching any of their levels of talent, but I’m an excited puppy at the idea of lane buckman headshotgetting to chase after them.

Thank you so much for inviting me to do your Q&A! If people would like to follow me, I blog at www.lanebuckman.com, facebook at TheOutsideLane, tweet @lanelese, and instagram/pinterest as lanelese. I’m also available at www.robynlanebooks.com and @robynlanebooks.

And thanks to you too, Lane. Dear friends, be sure to pick up TIARA TROUBLE on your Kindle, and while you’re at it, follow Lane’s other links to get to know her and her other works better.


Barbara Jean

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Thanks be to you, Lisa!

Hi there, guys and dolls! Today, I’m tooting my own horn a little (now cut that out, it’s not dirty… ;-) ) and share with you what a respected and prolific blogger/reviewer had to say about my Poppy Cove Mysteries.

Lisa A. Kelly has a wonderful blog, full of fun and guests, with a great sense of humor and liveliness. It’s always interesting and varied, featuring new authors and classic favorites. Do check it out – Lisa K’s Book Reviews if you don’t already do. (She’s a fantabulous person, too. Has a heart full of gold and not afraid to share it.)

Recently, she posted a lovely feature about my recent summer activities (the book tour through the Okanagan Regional Library), but in addition, she posted her reviews of all of my books in the series so far. Quite frankly, she had yours truly in happy tears. I so love it when people enjoy my Santa Lucians.

So without further ado, here is what she had to say about STRANGLED BY SILK, DEATH OF A BEAUTY QUEEN and A NATE TO REMEMBER.

STRANGLED BY SILKSTRANGLED BY SILK – This delightful premiere in the Poppy Cove Mystery series takes us back to the 50’s! Readers are in for fashion and excitement as they try to solve the mystery along with independent dress shop owners Daphne and Margot.

I really enjoyed this story. The author captured the feel of the 50’s while still making the story feel modern and fresh. I love the look of vintage 50’s dresses, so I was beside myself with joy imagining all of the glorious apparel worn by the ladies in this wonderful tale.
The action started fast and just got better. I was anxious to turn each and every page and hated to put the book down. STRANGLED BY SILK captured me from the beginning and didn’t let go until the thrilling end.

I see more Poppy Cove novels in the future for this awesome author! I for one can’t wait!

DEATH OF A BEAUTY QUEEN - CopyDEATH OF A BEAUTY QUEEN – Author Barbara Jean Coast has penned a novel filled with intrigue, excitement, fun, drama, and fashion!

I was thrilled to go back to the 1950’s to Santa Lucia, CA and hang out with Margot Williams and Daphne Hunting-Smythe at their “in” fashion dress shop. Although, I always feel under dressed when I spend time with those ladies. ;-)

Book one of the Poppy Cove Mystery series, STRANGLED BY SILK was unforgettable. In book two, DEATH OF A BEAUTY QUEEN, there was always something happening in this “happening” story. Packed cover to cover with everything that makes a mystery great, this book took my breath away!

It’s very clear that the author did her research into the 50’s era. Everything from clothing, manner of speech, and chain smoking fathers pacing maternity ward waiting rooms, transported me to another time. And all of this lent the perfect background to an outstanding mystery of who killed the beauty queen.

Way to go Barbara Jean! I look forward to what books three and beyond have to offer.

A NATE TO REMEMBERA NATE TO REMEMBER – Hey guy and gals, if you’re looking for a dream mystery to curl up with, look no further. A NATE TO REMEMBER is a book to remember. It will take you back to simpler days when Tupperware and cocktail parties were all the rage, when sweet girls were courted by nice young men (well, mostly), and murders never happened…..well, almost never happened. ;-)

A NATE TO REMEMBER is the third book in the Poppy Cover Mystery series written by Barbara Jean Coast. I have loved this series since book one, STRANGLED BY SILK, and I discovered Margot Williams and Daphne Hunting-Smythe, the owners of the Poppy Cove dress shop and lead characters of this series.

In this installment these sweet ladies and upstanding business women are in a real fix. At least Margot is. The dead body of her ex-husband, that no one knew she had, is discovered and Margot becomes he prime suspect.

Barbara Jean Coast aka Andrea Taylor and Heather Shkuratoff have really outdone themselves this time. This story is by far the best in the series to date. It was nothing short of a brilliant mystery and a completely amazing read. I was entranced through the entire story. And when I got to the surprising reveal and found out the who and why, I literally said “Wow” out loud.

If you have read the first two Poppy Cover book, you are going to be thrilled with this one. If you haven’t read the series, do yourself a favor and get all three books in the series, and take a trip back to the 50’s you’ll never forget!

So there you have it, folks. Thanks for indulging me and letting me share what lovely things the lovely Lisa had to say. All of you are always welcome in Santa Lucia anytime.


Barbara Jean

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Timing is Everything

Hi there, guys and dolls! Today, I’m letting Andrea and Heather take over the blog again, talking about the ebb and flow of writing and getting the words out in the form of a story.

Sometimes it’s a mad rush, sentences like waves, fingers flying on keys, great swaths of paragraphs, high thousands of words hitting the page and making sense, the tangibles that give a great sense of accomplishment.

But other times, it’s about all the background, all the thinking and plotting, the dreaming and scheming. That work can be hard to measure and can sometimes be confused with “writer’s block.”  Maybe we need to rethink what that term means, and is it really that you are stuck, or need to accept that phase as incubating or percolating ideas that will create the rounded out picture and rush of what we define as productivity.

We find the more that we let ourselves get involved in the entire process of writing, the more we understand it’s multi-faceted. We’re not even going to get into the whole marketing aspect in this post. That’s a whole other universe that is a great mystery to most – even those who think they’ve got it all sussed up find the game changes all the time.

What we’re talking about is how we work creatively and this can be applied to any kind of medium, not just writing. Everything is active, including that staring out the window, enjoying leisure time, and giving in to what we think are blocks. It’s incubation, formation, and devising new stories, angles, plots – quite often subconsciously. It has incredibly high value, if we let ourselves accept and understand it.

Go with the flow. When the words fly, let them, get them down, don’t edit, just do. When we find ourselves needing to breathe or gain inspiration, rest, we learn to do that, too. If we need distraction, understand that is meant to be as well. The higher mind will take over and line things up, getting us ready if we just stay out of the way and trust the process. Not only does it enrich life, it enriches your writing, too.

Warm Regards,

Andrea & Heather

aka that Barbara Jean

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Finding Treasure

Hi there, guys and dolls! Today, Andrea and Heather are taking over theA_Nate_To_Remember blog, writing about one of their favorite things about telling my tales – research.

As our followers know, our Poppy Cove Mysteries are set in the late 50’s and will be carried on into the 60’s. The most recent release, A NATE TO REMEMBER is set in 1958, and we have started work on the fourth, set in 1959. More to come on that one, but just not yet :-). For us, writing is relating, telling the tales that are not only inspired into our imaginations through private creative means, but also talking and getting to know people and places.

Although Santa Lucia is fictional, we do loosely base it on Santa Barbara, and strive for some realism in what we create. That’s where research comes in. The historical society has been very helpful in answering our questions to help round out our world. It’s about the time we spend in the area, absorbing and taking in the details, letting the muse call.

It’s also about the people who share their stories of the place and their experiences in the time we set our stories in. We love to talk to people, hearing their stories of the times, watching as their eyes view a distant past, with a slow smile on their faces. They bring out pictures, they laugh, they sometimes cry.

The internet is a great bounty of treasure with historical events, images, and links, it brings the world to your fingertips. Books, movies, magazines, music, and other media help us create atmosphere and shape the stories we have in our heads.

Writing is a way of communicating, which means it’s not a one way street. We don’t just spew out words; we listen, talk, absorb, and then write. We share. We learn from others, friends, dear readers, and family. Then keep telling our tales, sharing them with you, and learning from you.

Thank you,

Andrea & Heather

aka that Barbara Jean

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Come A Little Closer…

Hi there, guys and dolls! Well, as you know, my girls Andrea and Heather finished up the scheduled visits on their Poppy Cove Mystery Tour through the Okanagan Regional Library system. And boy howdy, they had such a wonderful time. They met some wonderful people, saw some beautiful countryside, and even caught up with a few old friends and made plenty of new ones. Wonderfully, many new visitors aka readers are now coming to visit Santa Lucia. The more the merrier, everyone is always welcome to get to know Daphne, Margot and the rest of the gang. They are just a click away and so happy to share their world with you. There may be a little murder and mayhem, but hey, you knew they were cozy mysteries, didn’t you?

On the tour, there were so many interesting and provocative conversations with the guests. One topic that came up many times was the discussion of graphic and explicit descriptions, and how much should be left to the imagination. As my girls listened and talked, the subject was discussed in reference to books, movies, television, and other various forms of entertainment. There was talk about leaving things to the imagination, when blood, gore, overexposure and overuse of nasty words involve the viewer or reader as an active participant in the story. Their minds become engaged deeper and further, they feel a part of the story more than if everything is splayed out, which can leave the one receiving the entertainment feeling lazy, bored, and disengaged.

Hence the “Come a Little Closer.” Think of it this way – when you are reading or watching a movie and a hand goes across a mouth and someone is pulled into the dark, you are taken in, you lean forward on the edge of your seat, you imagine the details and you ‘feel’ the story, embodied in your mind. Same goes for a romantic scene – for example, the couple kisses or embraces in a deep meaningful way, a little shoulder or glance is shown, just enough for any red-blooded adult to get the drift, and your mind wanders to your own desires, or references your own experience, it becomes about your life and your mind. You’re drawn in and want to know more, not because of what you are being told or see, but because you as a person interpret the silence between the notes for yourself.

When there is too much in your face, whether a person realizes it or not, they back away, sometimes hide their eyes, their mind shuts down, and can feel uncomfortable. They detach and in the back of their heads look for distraction, not really wanting to know or see more. There is a ‘thrill’ but it is more of a repulsion than attraction. A person will sometimes seek more, but it’s about a fight or flight response, not about engagement and embodiment. And it’s not a mistake of switching pronouns in this paragraph, it flowed out as a response to the change of personalization in the thought process during writing.

Now don’t get me wrong, I believe in everyone telling and expressing themselves in whatever way they are drawn to do, and I do encourage people to read and watch whatever floats their boat, but I’m just sharing with you the way that I like to be – engaged and connecting with others, doing my best to have dear readers share in my little corner of the world.


Barbara Jean

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